Setting Expectations

Have you ever decided you were going to change something in your life? Have you ever decided you were going to start doing something? Now did you make that change? Did you finish what you started? There’s a good chance that many of you said “No” to both questions. I know that personally I said no to both questions. There were changes that I wanted to make, I began to make and yet to this day I’ve still not accomplished. The same thing goes for finishing what I started, I’ve started many things only to not finish them. Why?

Today as I pondered this I believe that I’ve come across what could be the solution to my problem. As I think back to the changes I wanted to make and the different ventures I’ve started I realized that I believed that change would come quick. I thought that I would make money quickly, and my success would be just around the bend. In other words my expectations for the results I desired to have didn’t come when I thought they would therefore I gave up. My motivation came to a screeching halt and I forgot about where I wanted to be and just accepted that where I was. Then I decided that what I was already doing was easier. This is also a lack of commitment and lack of consistency, the foundation for success.

Something that I realized is that success rarely comes overnight or in just a few weeks. It’s usually months, and years of hard work. Day in and day out, nothing comes easy no matter how much you want it to and believe that it should. In fact this mindset of entitlement will get you nowhere fast.

Setting expectations of limited time to receive unlimited results are usually unrealistic. Setting an unrealistic goal can undermine your drive thus wearing your motivation down.  It’s not that it can’t be done but the time line in which you expect to see it happen could possibly be the clincher. Instead, plan out your goals like a map, setting small goals along the way. As you continue to achieve your results and reach your goals you are on your way. You are also building momentum and increasing your chances of reaching your goal. So a more effective expectation would be a small goal that is obviously a stepping stone to a much larger goal. Don’t set yourself up for failure by expecting too much in too short of time but instead know that the path to success is usually long and tough. You’ll have to get through to go through but that’s all a part of the process.

Making this applicable now:

1. If you have a large goal make several small goals that are on the road to reaching your large goal. This way you know you’re on the right path, you’re focused and you’re making progress.

2. Give yourself time to grow and reach your goals, IT WILL NOT HAPPEN OVERNIGHT!!!!

3. Remember that life is a marathon, not a sprint.


2 Responses to “Setting Expectations”

  1. 1 Tildet Schoenbrot November 3, 2009 at 11:39 am

    Great tips! I believe that these goal-setting tips would also make our goals more effective and achievable.

    • 2 tpb November 6, 2009 at 3:02 pm

      Thanks Tidet, I appreciate your contribution and I agree with your post as well. I believe they compliment each other. Your steps 1-4 lead to success, I’ve tried them and they are proven to work.

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