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Setting Expectations

Have you ever decided you were going to change something in your life? Have you ever decided you were going to start doing something? Now did you make that change? Did you finish what you started? There’s a good chance that many of you said “No” to both questions. I know that personally I said no to both questions. There were changes that I wanted to make, I began to make and yet to this day I’ve still not accomplished. The same thing goes for finishing what I started, I’ve started many things only to not finish them. Why?

Today as I pondered this I believe that I’ve come across what could be the solution to my problem. As I think back to the changes I wanted to make and the different ventures I’ve started I realized that I believed that change would come quick. I thought that I would make money quickly, and my success would be just around the bend. In other words my expectations for the results I desired to have didn’t come when I thought they would therefore I gave up. My motivation came to a screeching halt and I forgot about where I wanted to be and just accepted that where I was. Then I decided that what I was already doing was easier. This is also a lack of commitment and lack of consistency, the foundation for success.

Something that I realized is that success rarely comes overnight or in just a few weeks. It’s usually months, and years of hard work. Day in and day out, nothing comes easy no matter how much you want it to and believe that it should. In fact this mindset of entitlement will get you nowhere fast.

Setting expectations of limited time to receive unlimited results are usually unrealistic. Setting an unrealistic goal can undermine your drive thus wearing your motivation down.  It’s not that it can’t be done but the time line in which you expect to see it happen could possibly be the clincher. Instead, plan out your goals like a map, setting small goals along the way. As you continue to achieve your results and reach your goals you are on your way. You are also building momentum and increasing your chances of reaching your goal. So a more effective expectation would be a small goal that is obviously a stepping stone to a much larger goal. Don’t set yourself up for failure by expecting too much in too short of time but instead know that the path to success is usually long and tough. You’ll have to get through to go through but that’s all a part of the process.

Making this applicable now:

1. If you have a large goal make several small goals that are on the road to reaching your large goal. This way you know you’re on the right path, you’re focused and you’re making progress.

2. Give yourself time to grow and reach your goals, IT WILL NOT HAPPEN OVERNIGHT!!!!

3. Remember that life is a marathon, not a sprint.


Will Smith’s Good Habits

Will Smith is an extremely successful individual, one of my favorites in Hollywood. I love many of his movies. I grew up watching The Fresh Prince of Bel Air. I never thought about nor did I ever think about how driven, committed, and focused he is. He describes many attributes that I believe we should incorporate into our lives. I’m sure you’ll pick up on them, make these concepts a part of your life, I am.



Came across this article in the blogosphere.

Mike Rowes 7 Dirty Habits of Effluent People.

Consistency & Commitment

These two factors make up the foundation of any success in any endeavour. The only way around these two key driving forces is to win the Lottery. Winning the lottery can get you easy success, and of course this is based on how you define success. Success can mean many things to many people and ultimately I’m speaking in generalities, when I say winning the lottery, I don’t actually mean winning the lottery. I pretty much mean any big break that someone could get. If they are born with a silver spoon in their mouth or know someone powerful who can take care of them in the work force and still even with these types of connections that the easy success that is attained rather quickly will be lost quickly unless the commitment and consistency is utilized to keep it up, otherwise, The “Success” will be short-lived and you’ll fall more like a failure when you have it and then lose it.

Dedicate yourself to the good habits of  being consistent and committed in all of your endeavours, when the tough gets going, you keep going! Don’t give up and just keep moving forward, you’ll be amazed at the results you will yield as time goes on.

Where you are vs. Where you want to be

Good habits and bad habits are incorporated into every facit of our lives. At our jobs, the relationships that we are in, our money, our thoughts, our free time, hygiene, and on and on, let’s face the facts here, habits are a part of everything we do. We’ve created these habits over time, and they drive our daily lives. They ultimately drive where we are now and where we plan on going. How? Remember the word compounding from investing class? If not click here, the point I want to make is that the action you take today, tomorrow, and so on, which was dependent on yesterdays actions will continue to push you in the direction that you’re going. Another way to describe our habits is through momentum.  If a ball was rolling downhill, its speed will become faster. It will become harder for the ball to change direction or stop because of the momentum that it has built up. These concepts can be an  analogy for the habits that you and I do each and everyday. If a habit is well, a habit, then it’s hard to change course. Just as smokers need a cigarette, or coffee drinkers can’t wait to get a cup of coffee, or people who love to exercise, exercise, all of them have psychological momentum built into their actions. They’re can’t wait, they’re always thinking about it, and it’s just like second nature. As you live your life you make decisions to do things, what you choose to do will drive your life in a particular direction affecting you in a positive manner or a negative manner, choose wisely.

Now lets decide where we want to be, who we want to be and what do we want out of life. Then take the actions to get there, not as easy as it sounds right?!? I wish it was but no, it’s not! This is like making new years resolutions, what happens to those resolutions? I bet 99 % of them are never accomplished, it’s a list of things we want but we are not focused on, nor are we willing to do what it takes to accomplish those resolutions. This is the same reason that everyone isn’t rich, or successful. People are not willing to do what it takes, they are lazy and inconsistent, and well change is just too hard.

I’d like to suggests another way to change, inspired by Leo over at Zen Habits. He suggests only focus on one small change at a time. DO NOT take it all on at once, I repeat DO NOT try to make all or your changes happen at once. You will give up,  sad but true. Focus only on one small change at a time. These small changes can make a difference over time and they will actually compound to make huge differences over the course of your life, so take a step back, see where you are and see where you want to be. What habit can you change or begin actually doing today to begin driving your life where you want it to go. I encourage you to make that 1 change today.